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Little sister

May 31, 2011


Little sister 28th May 2011

Here she finally is! Our daughter was born on 28th May at 12.18 AM at 39w3days. 3314g and 48 cm.

Labor was fast and efficient this time! Painful contractions started around 4AM and I was already 7 cm dilated when we arrived at the hospital little before 8 AM. First couple of hours I felt there was no need for any pain reduction, since moving in the rocking chair and using my voice seemed to take the sharpest edge away from the contractions.

Around 11AM I started to feel more pain, and the midwife suggested entonox. Since it worked ok in my first labor, I decided to give it a try. This time it wasn’t doing so much and the contractions started to get worse and worse. Midwife did a pelvic exam and it turned out I hadn’t dilated more at all during these hours. Of course I thought that it’s going to be a 24hour hell all over again, so I asked for an epidural. Anesthetist doctor was called but she was busy with another patient and I was told she’d be with us 20 minutes later. Those 20 minutes were some of the most painful I have ever experienced, and the second the doctor came to the room I felt a massive urge to push. Pelvic showed I had dilated the last 3 cm during those 20 minutes so no epidural for me!

The pushing only took 8 minutes and I got to say it was quite primal, the urge to push was really intense and so was the pain too. Umbilical cord was twice around baby’s neck but the second she was out she started to scream. They lifted her on my lap and she felt so tiny! I started immediately breastfeeding and we stayed on the bed at least for an hour before another nurse came to do the measurings and I got to shower.

We only spent one night at the hospital and now are adjusting to life at home with two children. S is a littled muddled about this tiny creature who makes a large noise, but so far hasn’t had any tantrums about her. Breastfeeding didn’t start too well, the first night at home I tried it for 5 hours with a screaming baby and it seemed nothing came out so I had to make DH go to the gas station to buy some formula. Luckily yesterday the milk rose and now it’s over abundant!

We had a weighing at the hospital today and nurse said we can go outside today for the first time! Exciting 🙂


Pregnancy test

May 19, 2011

This is actually a list of questions presented to a preggo woman in one particular Finnish baby magazine (that actually makes me furious after reading because of its “natural super mothers” attitude) in each episode. Here it goes!

I have been eating everything, salty and sweet

In early pregnancy all I devoured was salty and greasy stuff but lately it has been chocolate, ice-cream and cakes that make me extremely happy. And since the glucose test turned normal and the late u/s predicted a small baby (about 2,5kg at 35 weeks) I’ve had no quilty feelings for stuffing myself with that stuff.

Even the smell of coffee makes me want to vomit

First trimester I didn’t fancy coffee at all (normally I have 2-3 cups a day). Afterwards I’ve had about a (large) cup a day.

I could sleep all day

So true. Early pregnancy fatigue was terrible. Luckily S still napped a lot that time. Now he only takes one nap (about 2 hours) during which I try to have my lunch, watch quality TV like True Blood or Desperat Housewifes, enjoy my chocolates/ice-cream/cakes/all of them with coffee and if there’s still time left have a nap too. The last weeks I’ve been noticeably more tired again and during this pregnancy there really was no “energetic middle-pregnancy” at all!

Cramps on calves, heartburn, swelling, I’ve had all of them

Cramps during night, check. Heartburn, definetely and OMG it’s the worst thing ever. Swelling has luckily been absent this time.

I’ve felt like a sex bomb

Not really. Ok I love my rack at this size (normally a B cup, now E) but otherwise I miss my normal figure. And it doesn’t help that DH misses too.

I’ve gained tens of kilos of weight

This time around the weight gain has been quite moderate. I was 60 kg at BFP, then losed two kilos and now I’m about 68,5kg.

I’ve been really emotional

Oh yes. Can’t watch anything with babies/wedding/funeral from tv. Even the Bold and the Beautiful can make me cry. So fucking ridiculous.

A good mother will nurse long. (See what I told you about the magazines’s attitude!!!)

No. A good mother will nurse as long as it is possible in her situation. If nursing feels totally unpleasant and stressful for her she won’t sacrifice her own mental health just to be a good “natural mother”. Finland is a country of breast-feeding nazism and you will definetely be frowned upon if you stop breastfeeding just because you don’t want to do it or if you want to share the feeding responsibility with the baby’s father. Everyone has to “justify” their bottle-feeding with saying that the milk just stopped coming to get other mother’s approval. That’s just plain crazy.

Yes breastfeeding can be an amazing experience but it can also be quite the opposite as well and I totally understand mothers who don’t want to do it as I do understand those as well who enjoy it. What I can’t fathom is mothers who see themselves superior to others for breastfeeding as long as possible. I’ve heard about mothers who only ate rice-cakes and turkey cutlets while breastfeeding because all other food would affect the breastmilk and make the baby’s stomach upset. Seriously.In my pov breastfeeding no matter how difficult and stressful it feels is just plain stupid. I full nursed S 1 month and 4 months partly and bottle-feeding suited us really well.

I have planned the birth before hand

I know you really can’t plan the delivery but I have some wishes for the situation. I wish I’ll have a nice, understanding midwife who will suggest different positions and pain management for me and encourage me to move around. I’m willing to take an epidural if I’m in a lot of pain or if the labor won’t proceed well (last time epidural did the trick and I dilated from 4cm to 10cm in an hour). I want DH to be able to cut the umbilical cord and wash the baby for the first time. I wish they won’t have to cut an episiotomy as first time I was saved from that too. All in all, I wish I can trust my body and have a normal delivery with a healthy baby.

I’m 38w1day today and totally ready to have this baby!